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Wedding Vendor Etiquette: Gratuities & Tipping

Wedding Vendor Etiquette: Gratuities & Tipping

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A Thank You Gift

For Your Vendors

Although not required nor expected, a gratuity is a small but thoughtful gesture for your wedding vendors as a way of saying thank you for their services. Listed below are some approximate values to consider when estimating the proper gratuities and tips.

Wedding Planner

  • Up to $500 or a nice gift.


  • $75-$100 donations are appropriate. mayors, judges, or other public servants generally do not accept gratuities.

Ceremony Site Staff

(Organists, soloists, church staff, etc.)

  • $20-$30 per person.

Delivery & Setup Personnel

(Decorators, florists, cake, etc.

  • $10 each for delivering items, $20 each for delivering and setting up.


  • $50-$100 per vendor.

Reception Site Manager

  • 15%-20% of entire bill for reception.

Reception Wait Staff

  • $20-$40 each, depending upon quality of service.


  • 15%-20% to bandleader or DJ, more if expectations are exceeded.


  • 15%-20% of entire bill for bar

Transportation Driver(s)

  • 15%-20% in addition to contracted fee paid to driver

Parking Attendants

  • $1-$2 per car, if they are not accepting tips from guests

Keep in mind that some vendors may already include gratuities in their contract so be sure to read the fine print. Some vendors will be tipped at the end of the night, such as the photographer and band/DJ, while others may be tipped the day before (catering and florist delivery staff) or at the end of their service (hair and makeup artists).

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